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Learning From Your Enemies

Perhaps enemy is too strong a term. But seeing as most people are incapable of differentiating between gradients of a spectrum and see the world in terms of good or bad, us and them, moral and abhorrent, I feel the need to use this term. What I really mean is not so much enemy but “other.” In the growing sphere of the reactionary world there is the tendency to cling to rigid hierarchy and traditionalism. While maintaining a strong bias toward all things noble, chivalrous and honorable or what our enemies call “dead white male culture.” This tendency to strive to “become who we are” is in part a desire to return our people to healthy, traditional, high trust societies and the behavioral package which is needed for them. However Pandora’s Box has been opened, the enemy is not just at the gates they are the gate keepers and warden of the citadel, dispossessing the villagers of their homes so the barbarians can occupy them instead. In the process helping themselves to the silverware and the farmer’s daughters.

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This author is not so idealistic or pathologically optimistic to believe that we can really go home again. I am not as concerned with the past as I much I am the future and drastic times call for drastic measures to ensure there is a future. We in the Alt Right reactosphere need to get off our high horses. We need to stop thinking about what should be and consider what is.
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It would be nice if we could abide by the traditions of our ancestors and form stable nuclear families in societies where courteous steadfast men courted virtuous loyal women. But this is just intellectual role playing it’s not going to happen barring some great cataclysm and collapse of the government welfare state with its quotas, credential seeking and vacuous consumerism.
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What we need to focus on is what works and quite frankly our chivalrous nature is not working. It has enabled an element of society to emerge which does not respect your generosity. This element sees kindness as weakness. It does not think independently but adheres to a herd mentality, concerned only with their rank in the group and how much material they can horde over their peers. It matters not how they acquire these goods be it by themselves or through association with an obedient wage slave. All things being equal, they will always adhere to whoever or whatever can guarantee them just a little bit more than the last. This little bit more need not be strictly material. It could be as simple as the instinctual thrill they get from your typical Dark Triad individual. The Dark Triad being a set of personality traits, that your typical European descended male has had nearly bred out of him.
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This element of society which I speak is in truth half of our society and the fairer half at that. If you haven’t guessed it by now I’m referring to women. There is a tendency in the manosphere to blame western women and their indolent disdain for stoic provider types for the state of things. On the other side, the Alternative Right and White Nationalist crowd tends to pedestalize white women as flawless creatures who have been led astray by a hedonistic, nihilistic culture of self. At the same time this culture has left their male compatriots timid, deracinated, manlets.

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Perhaps both sides are wrong. Perhaps we are merely products of a biological package not evolved to live in such a time or place. Weather a population evolved under the constant ebb and flow of advancing glaciers and steppe tundra, ever had the devil may care, lothario attitudes needed in today’s R selected culture is severely doubtful. Dark Triad traits are simply the behavioral package that goes along with a fast R selected life history strategy. Whatever the origin of these behaviors, something startling has occurred regarding their prevalence in recent times. We are only a handful of generations removed from an era when half of children died before their teenage years. In these times it was necessary to have large families as the welfare state did not exist and the only sure way to ensure survival in old age was to produce progeny who would look after you. This harsh reality was especially so for women. Even when one considers the staggering rate of birth related deaths for women, it was still a worse option to grow old and barren with no family than to risk death through childbirth trying to produce one. When one looks at more traditional societies or simply ones without government safety nets to fall back on, mothers revered their sons more so than even their daughters. Sons were seen as your ticket to a peaceful old age where you would be supported and cared for. Today a son is just one less person a woman can go shopping with.
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As such the disdain for white male’s starts early in their lives with their own mothers. In earlier times such women would have made certain to impart more masculine virtues to their sons, as these sons were their insurance policy in old age. Should a boy display cowardly, shiftless or effeminate characteristics mothers traditionally would chastise them for it, as it would not bode well for their own survival down the road.
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Various examples of this come to mind throughout Western history. Spartan mothers use to tell their sons when embarking on a military campaign “With it or on it” as in return with your shield or being carried on it by others. During a battle in Classical Greece if men were to break ranks and run, they would have to drop their heavy shields in the process. If men stood their ground and were killed, they would be carried home on their large shields. This attitude can be seen even in white American mothers until quite recently. One such mother during the civil war upon learning of her son’s death in battle had only one question for the messenger “was he shot in the front or back?” Upon learning it was the front she replied with the words “good than he didn’t die a coward.” Your average mother nowadays is much more likely to impart the feel good philosophy of “be nice to everyone” or “treat others how you would like to be treated” than instill any protective or fierce instincts in their sons. They do this because they no longer need their sons outside having pictures to show off to their friends of picturesque little families that fit their ascending office or professional career. If a woman doesn’t  need her son to be a man who will protect her in old age, mothers are less likely to try and steer their sons in such a direction and instead treat them as a sort of pet.
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Perhaps I am hyper aware of this trend in women as I had the good fortune of growing up next to my gritty realist grandmother, whose own child rearing philosophy was markedly devoid of feel good egalitarianism when compared with that of my own mother’s hyper moral “be nice” approach. When I was old enough to understand Grandma would often regal me with stories of suicidal kindness and the problems it will cause for you. As I grew older I learned that being nice often gives you the appearance of weakness and makes you a target of those who do not share your feel good notions of fair play. How much of the problem of weakness among western males stems from women who no longer need to raise steadfast protective sons can only be guessed at. That being said I know my own world view changed dramatically when exposed to the teachings of a woman, who had seen tough times and saw the world for what it is and not what the koombaya crowd wants it to be.
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As always I speak of averages and quotients but again the exception proves the rule.  This rule just as my grandmother advised me when I brought home my first girlfriend in high school, is that “women don’t like nice guys.” This is perhaps an oversimplification of the mating trends in today’s society. What this statement means is an explanation of the attraction to Dark Triad personality traits. The Dark Triad encompasses narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. Evolutionary psychology has come up with some interesting theories to explain attraction to the Dark Triad. However in reality I believe it may be much simpler. Women are attracted to social status as social status secures resources. Males who are secure in their status tend to display less neuroticism and self-doubt than those who are not. A lack of self-doubt often leads to an overly confident uninhibited demeanor, more commonly known as being an “asshole.” Simplified women like assholes because they can afford to be assholes. Nice guys on the other hand are often seen as weak because they appear to be seeking approval or being needy, whether they are or not. Men with social status don’t need to seek approval or apologize.
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That being said there is a strong genetic component toward male personality traits, which is entirely irrelevant toward whether a man has the confidence boosting, inhibition lowering social status women are attracted too. Most personality traits are between 40-80% heritable with extraversion and aggression being roughly 50% heritable based on twin studies. (Segal and Tellegen) Genes don’t evolve in isolation, rather populations evolve genetics in an interrelated way. If the males of one population were selected for empathy and pair bonding, the females of this population would in turn evolve characteristics which compliment these tendencies such as high social trust and perhaps a more socially dominant nature, as their male counterparts would allow it. If males from another population selected for enmity, low pair bonding and low social trust were suddenly introduced to this once isolated population, the whole matting game would be thrown out of sync. These more aggressive, less caring males displaying more of the Dark Triad traits would be seen by the women as more dominant and thus more desirable. These preferences would be exaggerated if in the society women were not dependent on their men for resources.
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Generally speaking empathy and pair bonding among males usually evolves in cold environments with scarce food resources. In these environment males are constrained by their ability to engage in polygamy by the high labor cost and high  mortality rate of providing this food during winter for their mates and children. Women in such climates are physically incapable of plowing frozen rocky soil or felling large game. Low pair bonding evolves in warmer climates where longer growing seasons and in some cases year round agriculture allows for more plentiful food resources and even the ability of women to provide for their own children as the soil is softer and more fertile. In a society where men could afford more than one wife or simply not have to invest as much in the one they have men would behave very differently. This is the tendency as one moves from north to south in Eurasia. The warmer it gets the less empathy and pair bonding is displayed men. This tendency may be influenced by their culture to a degree but seeing as genes create culture, there is a limiting feedback mechanism so in large groups this makes little difference. As these men are less attached and caring to women, they would be seen as more dominant and desirable by women if suddenly injected into a population without these tendencies.
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This phenomenon can be readily seen in contemporary Europe as millions of males from warmer climes trek north under the guise as migrants and refugees, to claim mates and assert their dominance over their more empathetic, high trust and respectful hosts. Given these patterns it would be wise for the Euro and White Nationalist crowds to keep some restraint when it comes to pedestalizing the fairer sex of our tribe as they seem increasingly to hate us for it. In essence this proposal could be seen as learning from our enemies and some may have reservations against it as it is a break with the tradition of Western chivalry. However would it really be any different from the actions of our own ancestors, who themselves “culturally appropriated” various functional traditions from other civilizations and tribes? This ability in itself is uniquely Western as no other group until recently, excluding the obvious exception of the Japanese, was able or willing to adopt successfully the practices and modes of another civilization.

Anyways just weighing the options.

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